kingtoye asked: How do you resolve the conflicts between "Who you were", "Who you are" and "Who you should be",
"Who you should be" is out of the picture. I really don’t think people change, I think they grow but then again I don’t think that growing necessarily implies that you’ll eventually become who you are — you might grow and completely lose track of your own selfhood and you might grow and feel like you’re getting closer and closer to approaching the core of your being. Then again you might never be able to do that and never connect with yourself no matter how badly you’ll be longing for it and just never attain that necessary degree of self-awareness in order to even know that but that doesn’t make it a “conflict”, it makes it probably…life. And as long as it feels like this being your life, then it is what it is. Idk. I think we do carry the person “we were” through everything we’re doing at present or will be doing in the future; and whether the person we once were feels like a changed person has very much to do with an inner need for us to decode the process of growing. Hence the distinction from past to present. It feels like we need to justify what feels like a change but deep down it’s just a consequence coming to surface for us to witness & acknowledge and perhaps — perhaps — come to perceive.